Comments on: why i haven’t, but want, to write about breastfeeding http://www.nummies.com/blog/2010/02/why-i-havent-but-want-to-write-about-breastfeeding/ Sat, 04 Feb 2012 10:46:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Denise Crosbie http://www.nummies.com/blog/2010/02/why-i-havent-but-want-to-write-about-breastfeeding/comment-page-3/#comment-954 Denise Crosbie Thu, 21 Oct 2010 06:27:26 +0000 http://www.nummies.com/blog/?p=212#comment-954 I LOVE this article, every peice of it! I so agree! We do what we think is best, and let othe rmoms choose what they think is best. I LOVE this article, every peice of it! I so agree! We do what we think is best, and let othe rmoms choose what they think is best.

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]]> By: Alison Kramer http://www.nummies.com/blog/2010/02/why-i-havent-but-want-to-write-about-breastfeeding/comment-page-3/#comment-561 Alison Kramer Sun, 06 Jun 2010 06:33:29 +0000 http://www.nummies.com/blog/?p=212#comment-561 this is the post i am the most proud of, for many reasons. for the conversation it sparked, for the stories it allowed women to share, for the sisterhood it allowed. <br>Thank you for being a part of it this is the post i am the most proud of, for many reasons. for the conversation it sparked, for the stories it allowed women to share, for the sisterhood it allowed.
Thank you for being a part of it

]]> By: randomshelly http://www.nummies.com/blog/2010/02/why-i-havent-but-want-to-write-about-breastfeeding/comment-page-3/#comment-558 randomshelly Sun, 06 Jun 2010 06:25:16 +0000 http://www.nummies.com/blog/?p=212#comment-558 I can see why this is one of your favorite posts! Not only is the post awesome (back to that in a sec) - the comments are also inspiring and interesting!<br><br>I agree with you on the pro-everything... and also the anti-judgment and anti-hate!! <<SO MUCH AGREE...<br><br>But reading your post and then the comments, I sat here shaking my head... The story by Expat Mom, made me want to go back in time and b*tch-slap those people... I've been shaking my head because *somehow* I have missed all of this drama... I have never had anyone make me feel bad for my choices that I made for my son... or I guess if they tried, I ignored them... I'm with one of the other commenters (too many to go find it again) - that said 'why do moms make other moms feel this way'... I am floored that so many people have had this happen. I really don't live in a bubble, so I'm not sure why I'm so floored, and why I've never seen this...<br><br>I know all the benefits of breastfeeding... I was all prepared... I sat the last 6 months of my pregnancy on bed-rest in EXTREME pain because I wouldn't take any pain relievers (my pelvis came apart and twisted, long story, but that's the gist).. so when I was in the hospital after giving birth, I tried to feed, he tried... nothing.. then I went through the hot, then the rock hard breasts.. all the while using the pump trying to get the flow going... nothing... I fed him every 1-2 hours... formula, and would then spend 20 minutes trying to pump... still in pain mind you - the pelvis didn't snap back! >> and still with no pain relievers - turns out I'm allergic to them... but all I ever got was maybe a teaspoon... so after 2 months, I gave up... I had to go back to work and since it wasn't working anyway, I didn't want to haul all that stuff around. Selfish? probably, but my choice :) Personally, I wish it would have worked, but I never let the decision eat me up!<br><br>I love that you wrote this and sparked this debate... I can see why this is one of your favorite posts! Not only is the post awesome (back to that in a sec) – the comments are also inspiring and interesting!

I agree with you on the pro-everything… and also the anti-judgment and anti-hate!! <<SO MUCH AGREE…

But reading your post and then the comments, I sat here shaking my head… The story by Expat Mom, made me want to go back in time and b*tch-slap those people… I've been shaking my head because *somehow* I have missed all of this drama… I have never had anyone make me feel bad for my choices that I made for my son… or I guess if they tried, I ignored them… I'm with one of the other commenters (too many to go find it again) – that said 'why do moms make other moms feel this way'… I am floored that so many people have had this happen. I really don't live in a bubble, so I'm not sure why I'm so floored, and why I've never seen this…

I know all the benefits of breastfeeding… I was all prepared… I sat the last 6 months of my pregnancy on bed-rest in EXTREME pain because I wouldn't take any pain relievers (my pelvis came apart and twisted, long story, but that's the gist).. so when I was in the hospital after giving birth, I tried to feed, he tried… nothing.. then I went through the hot, then the rock hard breasts.. all the while using the pump trying to get the flow going… nothing… I fed him every 1-2 hours… formula, and would then spend 20 minutes trying to pump… still in pain mind you – the pelvis didn't snap back! >> and still with no pain relievers – turns out I'm allergic to them… but all I ever got was maybe a teaspoon… so after 2 months, I gave up… I had to go back to work and since it wasn't working anyway, I didn't want to haul all that stuff around. Selfish? probably, but my choice :) Personally, I wish it would have worked, but I never let the decision eat me up!

I love that you wrote this and sparked this debate…

]]> By: Alison Kramer http://www.nummies.com/blog/2010/02/why-i-havent-but-want-to-write-about-breastfeeding/comment-page-3/#comment-513 Alison Kramer Sun, 23 May 2010 05:03:50 +0000 http://www.nummies.com/blog/?p=212#comment-513 taken on its own and entirely out of context, maybe...<br><br>thank you for your comment taken on its own and entirely out of context, maybe…

thank you for your comment

]]> By: Mandy http://www.nummies.com/blog/2010/02/why-i-havent-but-want-to-write-about-breastfeeding/comment-page-3/#comment-512 Mandy Sun, 23 May 2010 03:56:29 +0000 http://www.nummies.com/blog/?p=212#comment-512 "My children have never known a bottle, but don’t you worry, I will mess them up in my own special way."<br><br>This sounds a lot like a judgement. Bottles will "mess a child up?" “My children have never known a bottle, but don’t you worry, I will mess them up in my own special way.”

This sounds a lot like a judgement. Bottles will “mess a child up?”

]]> By: Alison Kramer http://www.nummies.com/blog/2010/02/why-i-havent-but-want-to-write-about-breastfeeding/comment-page-3/#comment-483 Alison Kramer Thu, 13 May 2010 06:23:38 +0000 http://www.nummies.com/blog/?p=212#comment-483 Thank you for your comment. i am not sure how i missed it a month ago when you posted it...<br>Judgement really keeps people from supporting one another, often at times when we need each other most Thank you for your comment. i am not sure how i missed it a month ago when you posted it…
Judgement really keeps people from supporting one another, often at times when we need each other most

]]> By: Anna http://www.nummies.com/blog/2010/02/why-i-havent-but-want-to-write-about-breastfeeding/comment-page-3/#comment-263 Anna Sun, 14 Mar 2010 07:38:48 +0000 http://www.nummies.com/blog/?p=212#comment-263 I am so thankful for this post. It is <br><br>I breastfed both my kids (and am planning for the third that's on his/her way), but for some reason around six months both started rejecting the breast. I don't know if it my milk supply went down or if is/was just a natural six month nursing strike, but it went on so long and they (we) were just so miserable that eventually I had to supplement with a bottle, which eventually led to totally weaning and complete bottle feeding. I never talked about it much with anyone because it always seemed like my pro-breastfeeding friends were disappointed in me and felt like I should have tried harder, which made me feel awful. On the other had my formula feeding friends almost cheered me on like I should've been using formula from the beginning, which made me feel just as awful.<br><br>The post is so insightful and non-judgmental. It is the most refreshing pro-breastfeeding writing I've read. Thank you. I am so thankful for this post. It is

I breastfed both my kids (and am planning for the third that's on his/her way), but for some reason around six months both started rejecting the breast. I don't know if it my milk supply went down or if is/was just a natural six month nursing strike, but it went on so long and they (we) were just so miserable that eventually I had to supplement with a bottle, which eventually led to totally weaning and complete bottle feeding. I never talked about it much with anyone because it always seemed like my pro-breastfeeding friends were disappointed in me and felt like I should have tried harder, which made me feel awful. On the other had my formula feeding friends almost cheered me on like I should've been using formula from the beginning, which made me feel just as awful.

The post is so insightful and non-judgmental. It is the most refreshing pro-breastfeeding writing I've read. Thank you.

]]> By: Alison Kramer http://www.nummies.com/blog/2010/02/why-i-havent-but-want-to-write-about-breastfeeding/comment-page-3/#comment-202 Alison Kramer Thu, 25 Feb 2010 06:58:18 +0000 http://www.nummies.com/blog/?p=212#comment-202 and that is why i think you are so GREAT! you do not need to apologize for anything, nor do i for "my people" as you say. We are all mothering, trying our best and loving our children. i think the few bad eggs is a truism on both sides :) but no need for that to affect our conversation and that is why i think you are so GREAT! you do not need to apologize for anything, nor do i for “my people” as you say. We are all mothering, trying our best and loving our children. i think the few bad eggs is a truism on both sides :) but no need for that to affect our conversation

]]> By: FearlessFormulaFeeder http://www.nummies.com/blog/2010/02/why-i-havent-but-want-to-write-about-breastfeeding/comment-page-3/#comment-201 FearlessFormulaFeeder Thu, 25 Feb 2010 06:55:08 +0000 http://www.nummies.com/blog/?p=212#comment-201 Gosh- I am sorry on behalf of my "people" that anyone has ever made you feel that way. Honestly. I only feel pride and awe when my friends share their incredible breastfeeding stories. I am constantly amazed at the power we have as mothers and women - our bodies and spirits are incredible. I have nothing but the utmost respect for those who nurse, especially extended nursing, b/c I realize that our society is not accepting of this, and it takes a lot of strength. <br><br>I assume these women you've met are responding defensively - not that you are making them feel guilty through your success, but rather, like you said, that they worry you are judging them. This is an unfortunate result of what this war has become... and what I am trying to stop (pretty unsuccessfully so far!) And it really sucks, b/c for the most part, most of the breastfeeders I know are completely non-judgmental, and most of the FFs are pro-breastfeeding. A few bad eggs are screwing up the omelet, you know? Gosh- I am sorry on behalf of my “people” that anyone has ever made you feel that way. Honestly. I only feel pride and awe when my friends share their incredible breastfeeding stories. I am constantly amazed at the power we have as mothers and women – our bodies and spirits are incredible. I have nothing but the utmost respect for those who nurse, especially extended nursing, b/c I realize that our society is not accepting of this, and it takes a lot of strength.

I assume these women you've met are responding defensively – not that you are making them feel guilty through your success, but rather, like you said, that they worry you are judging them. This is an unfortunate result of what this war has become… and what I am trying to stop (pretty unsuccessfully so far!) And it really sucks, b/c for the most part, most of the breastfeeders I know are completely non-judgmental, and most of the FFs are pro-breastfeeding. A few bad eggs are screwing up the omelet, you know?

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